03 Jan I’m Afraid of How My Partner Will React to My Unplanned Pregnancy
It’s natural to have fears and concerns about your partner’s reaction, especially when you value their opinion and want to remain in the relationship. An unplanned pregnancy can make you feel anxious, and not knowing how to have a conversation with your partner (or what to do if they react negatively) can be challenging.
However, you don’t have to figure things out alone. Know that there is a way forward.
At Lighthouse Pregnancy Resource Center, you’re not alone. Find encouraging, no-cost support and resources. Continue reading to learn how to discuss your pregnancy with your partner and how to process their reactions.
Identify Your Fears
It’s normal to care about your partner’s perspective and to want support during this time. An unplanned pregnancy may have been the last thing on your mind, and a little help can go a long way.
However, if you’re worried about their reaction, take some time to sit with and identify your fears. Are you concerned this news will affect the relationship or that they won’t be as supportive as you hoped?
Know that these fears are to be expected, but sharing the news with your partner builds trust and healthy communication in the relationship. By having an open, honest conversation, your partner will know that you value their perspective and want to hear their thoughts.
Nonetheless, if your partner is abusive, know that you aren’t obligated to share the news, especially if doing so can cause further abuse and mistreatment. You deserve to feel safe and respected, no matter your circumstances.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides 24/7 support and resources to help you move to a secure, loving environment. Remember, abuse is never your fault.
Go Into the Conversation With an Open Mind
Though you are the one who’s pregnant, your partner might also feel frightened, confused, or even angry by the news. Try to have the initial conversation in a distraction-free, comfortable environment. That way, you’ll get a more accurate picture of their thoughts and feelings.
Being transparent about your pregnancy details and any initial thoughts on the options you’re considering can be helpful. Remember, your partner’s reaction does not reflect your character.
Learning you’re unexpectedly pregnant can be overwhelming and emotional, so giving them space to process the news—and then revisiting the topic together—can make a big difference.
Once you’ve both begun to process your emotions, you can gauge your partner’s level of support. You might find he’s more interested in parenting or adoption than expected, or perhaps his reaction isn’t what you imagined.
Know that no matter what happens, information and resources are available. Our male staff provides confidential support for men if your partner needs the help of a third partner to sort through his feelings. We also offer options counsel sessions so you can learn what’s available and make an educated decision.
We believe in your ability to move forward and weigh your options. Even in challenging times, you have more support than you realize.
No-Cost, Confidential Help
Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy? We can help.
Lighthouse Pregnancy Resource Center is here to help you navigate this experience. Together, we’ll help you take your next steps and find the necessary information and resources.
Schedule a no-cost, confidential appointment today.
Lighthouse Pregnancy Resource Center does not provide or refer for abortions.