How to Tell Your Partner and Family You Are Pregnant?

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How to Tell Your Partner and Family You Are Pregnant?

You’re pregnant, and perhaps you weren’t planning to be. An unplanned pregnancy can be frightening, and you may wonder where (or who) to turn to. 

Telling your partner and parents is an excellent first step, but it could be daunting. We’ll break down how you can prepare for both conversations. You’ve got this. 

Telling Your Partner

First, evaluate your relationship’s status. Is it in good standing? Do you fear your partner’s reaction, and have you discussed pregnancy? As with any conversation with loved ones, consider the source of your fear and anxiety. You deserve support and safety if abuse is present. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline for extra assistance and resources. 

If you feel comfortable telling your partner  you’re pregnant, consider the timing and location. These factors can make all the difference. Do you prefer sharing the news in a public location or your home? When is your partner able to provide their complete attention?

When you tell your partner, understand that their reaction could be mixed. They may feel scared, overwhelmed, or even angry. Offer time for them to process the news and reconnect when appropriate. 

You’ll have some big decisions to make, and it’s essential to ask your partner about their level of involvement. Discuss whether they’ll attend appointments.  Although this is your pregnancy decision, consider their opinion and support.

Sharing the News With Family

It’s understandable if you’re worried about telling your family you’re pregnant. The fear of disappointing or angering them is very powerful, and extra stress during this time is unhelpful. Share the news when you’re ready and make the same considerations you need when discussing it with your partner. 

Your family may be supportive or have strong ideas about pregnancy options. Remind them that this is your decision, but you’re open to a healthy level of support. Draw firm boundaries about their engagement level. Spend time with family members who relieve tension and have your back. Be open and honest about any discomfort you’re feeling. 

Telling your family can be overwhelming, but take pride in the fact that you’re doing what may feel impossible by pushing forward and taking control of your life. 

Need Extra Support?

If you have an unplanned pregnancy and are unsure how to navigate your next steps, Lighthouse Pregnancy Resource Center is here to help. 

We provide no-cost confidential services like ultrasounds, options counsel, and STD testing. Our center is a nonjudgmental space to process the information you need. 

Contact us today to request an appointment at one of our four locations.