08 Jan How Can You Provide Support to a Friend Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy?
When a friend tells you she’s facing an unplanned pregnancy, it’s natural to feel concerned or even uncertain about what to say or do next. You may want to fix things or offer immediate answers, but often, the most meaningful support comes from simply being present and walking alongside her as she processes what’s happening.
At Lighthouse, we offer no-cost, confidential pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, and options review sessions to help women feel informed and supported. If your friend is unsure where to turn, you can encourage her to schedule an appointment today and let her know she doesn’t have to face this alone.
Start by Listening and Creating Space
Your friend may be feeling overwhelmed, scared, or unsure of herself. Before offering advice, give her the space to talk openly. Listening without interrupting or judging allows her to feel heard and respected during vulnerable moments.
Letting her know you care and are there for her can also be incredibly helpful. You don’t need the perfect words. A calm, compassionate presence often speaks louder than advice.
Honor That It’s Her Decision
Even with the best intentions, it can be tempting to steer your friend toward what you think is best for her. However, this is her pregnancy and her future. Supporting her means respecting her ability to think through her situation and make decisions at her own pace.
You can ask what kind of help would feel most supportive right now. She might want company at an appointment, help researching information, or just someone to sit with her. Letting her guide the kind of support she receives helps her feel empowered rather than pressured.
Offer Steady, Ongoing Encouragement
Checking in with a text, inviting her for a walk, or simply spending time together can remind your friend she isn’t alone. Consistency builds trust and can help ease feelings of isolation that often accompany unexpected news.
Encourage her to gather accurate information before making decisions. You don’t need to have all the answers; pointing her toward reliable resources can be one of the most helpful things you do.
Help Her Connect with Supportive Resources
Lighthouse provides no-cost pregnancy testing and ultrasounds, along with options review sessions in a confidential setting. We offer a calm, pressure-free environment where your friend can ask questions, understand her pregnancy, and explore next steps.
If she’d like, you’re welcome to attend appointments with her for support. Sometimes just knowing someone will be there makes taking that first step easier.
You’re Not Doing This Alone Either
Supporting a friend through an unplanned pregnancy can be emotional for you as well. It’s okay to acknowledge your own feelings and seek support so you can continue to show up.
If you or your friend would like more guidance, schedule a no-cost, confidential appointment at the Lighthouse location nearest you today. We’re here to support both of you every step of the way.